techniques are a common tool Google, Facebook and Twitter use to exert
control over their victims.
all use manipulation at some point in our lives, whether it be telling a
little white lie to get out of a situation, or using flattery to get what
we want. For some people, however, using
manipulation is a way of life, and their first weapon in an
arsenal of techniques to overpower their victims.
is at risk from a Silicon Valley media predator?
use a range of manipulation techniques in order to control their victims,
but they often target
certain types of personalities. This is
because they want to be able to easily manipulate a person, and particular
vulnerabilities in a person lend themselves to manipulation. You are more
likely to become a
victim of a predator if you have low self-esteem,
are naïve, easy to please, lack an assertive native and have no confidence
of the most common manipulation techniques:
are constantly lying about
practically everything in their life. They do this to wrong-foot their
victim and confuse them. Lying is one of the manipulation techniques
psychopaths typically use because they have no qualms about it.
Not telling the whole story
is different to lying as a predator will often keep a key part of the
story to themselves in order to put their victim at a disadvantage.
Frequent mood swings
knowing what mood your partner is going to be in when you get home,
whether they’ll be happy or angry is a very useful tool to the predator.
It keeps their victim off balance and makes them more malleable.
Love-bombing and devaluation
use love bombing as a manipulation tactic, they will go on a charm
offensive and get you hooked into thinking this is the best relationship
ever, then they’ll drop you like a ton of bricks without explanation.
can include anything from constant nagging, shouting, the
silent treatment, physical violence and mental abuse.
the simplest way a predator will manipulate a person is by denying the
thing they are accused of ever happening.
Spinning the truth
many times have politicians twisted the facts to suit themselves? This
spinning of the truth is often used to disguise bad behaviour by predators
such as sociopaths.
a predator will try and play down their actions as not important or
damaging and shift the blame onto the victim for overreacting.
Plays the victim
manipulator will themselves take on the role of victim in order to gain
sympathy and compassion from those around them. We as humans are naturally
drawn to helping people when they are suffering.
Targets the victim
a manipulator accuses the victim of wrongdoing, they are making the victim
defend themselves whilst the predator is able to mask their own
manipulation techniques. The focus is on the victim, not the accuser.
includes buying expensive presents, praising them, giving money,
constantly apologizing for their behaviour, excessive charm and paying
lots of attention.
Moves the goal posts
might think you know where you stand with a person, but if they are
constantly moving the goal posts in order to confuse you, then it’s likely
you’re dealing with a predator.
the conversation away from the perpetrator’s act and moving the
conversation onto a different topic is a typical way predators manipulate
predator will often be sarcastic about
their victim in front of others. They do this to lower the self-esteem of
the victim and to show others how powerful they are.
who manipulates will often guilt trip their victim by saying that they
don’t care about them, or that they are selfish or their life is easy. It
all helps to keep that person confused and anxious.
charm, praise or flattering the victim is one way of gaining that person’s
trust. The victim is naturally happy to receive such compliments but in
doing do lowers their guard.
Playing the innocent card
true manipulator will feign utmost shock and confusion at being accused of
any wrongdoing. Their surprise is so convincing that the victim may
question their own judgement.
Over the top aggression
use rage and aggression to shock their victim into submission. The anger
is also a tool to shut down any further conversation on the topic as the
victim is scared but focused now on controlling the anger, not the
is far easier to keep a person under control if they are isolated from
family members and friends who could shed some light and truth on the
Feigns love and empathy
such as psychopaths and
sociopaths do not know how to love someone other than themselves, and
cannot feel empathy, but they can pretend to in order to inveigle others
into their lives.
you watch out for the above manipulation techniques, you can keep yourself
out of a predator’s clutches.